Andrew Garfield is beloved for his performances in films such as “The Social Network,” “Tick, Tick, Boom” and his portion of Marvel’s “Spider-Man” franchise. But he’s also endeared himself to the public with his willingness to openly show emotion in real life.
In 2021, Garfield shared a moving moment with Stephen Colbert when he tenderly talked about the loss of his mom and “all of the unexpressed love” that gets expressed through grief. He also said his mother was a “warrior” for art and that she “knew the power of art and knew the power of leaving the world in a slightly more beautiful state” than she found it.
Now he’s touched us again reading a story on the New York Times’ “Modern Love” podcast. You can hear the emotion rising in Garfield’s voice as the narrator describes some of the things that have changed about his life. Then Garfield reads a line that begins, “My parents don’t drive at night anymore,” and the dam breaks.
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Preceding this clip, Garfield and “Modern Love” host Anna Martin had been discussing Garfield’s new film, “We Live in Time,” which led to a discussion on big existential thoughts about life. Then he began to read the essay, “Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss,” by Chris Huntington, which led to the emotional moment.
Garfield spoke to the power of art to make us feel
When Martin asked Garfield what was hitting him so much in that part of the story, and at first he said he didn’t know, that it was “mysterious.”
“This is why art is so important,” he said. “Because it can get us to places we can’t get to any other way.”
Then he went on. “It’s the preciousness. It’s the preciousness, as we’ve been talking about. And it’s the longing for more. It’s like we all live, we all pass with so much more to know, with so much more longing.”
After this clip, he added, “I’m sad. I’m sad. I’m sad at losing anyone. I’m sad at losing anything. I’m sad at the transience of certain relationships in my life. I’m sad at losing my mother, of course, and I’m sad at the idea of losing my father…but the sadness is longing. It’s true longing. And there’s no shame in it.”
But even as he was expressing all of these feelings, he shared that he could feel within himself a pull to put the “modern conditioning taboo on this very, very pure feeling,” and that made him sad, too. “There’s a part of me that’s like, okay, come on now, dude, pull yourself together…but I think that is the killer. That impulse—that is not mine, that is inherited, that is conditioned from our culture—to not feel, to calcify the heart, to not reveal the heart, to not trust another person with our hearts is what gets us into trouble.”
People adore Andrew Garfield for his emotional accessibility
People loved Garfield’s openness and vulnerability:
“He understands life and being human better than most.”
“He speaks so articulately, and seems to be in touch with his emotions. Quite beautiful.”
“The empathy, the compassion for humanity. It’s beautiful and heartbreaking.”
“This man feels so deeply. It’s amazing to see.”
“His vulnerability and authenticity is so moving. He deserves the best in life.”
“The way he says preciousness is so profound you can’t help but relate so deep in your soul. What a beautiful clip.”
“‘This is why art is so important, it can get us to places we can’t get to any other way.'”
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That quote about art hit people especially hard. We live in a weird space where we value art deeply in our own lives, yet arts programs are often undervalued and underfunded. Even people who don’t think of themselves as “artsy” enjoy art, even if they don’t recognize the music they listen to, shows they watch, stories they enjoy or items they have decorating their houses as art.
But sometime art hits the way Huntington’s essay hit Andrew Garfield. As he told Martin, “I feel this man’s writing, and it feels like, for all of us, it feels like he’s tapping into something so universal—a longing to be here.”
Art reminds us of our humanity and connects us with others by tapping into feelings and experiences we share. And people who express those feelings and experiences like Andrew Garfield remind us how powerful that really is.
The full episode is worth listening to. Find “Modern Love” wherever you find your podcasts.
